20 Questions with... A super chilled Bride
Today I continue my talk with people that have been married and hear what their thoughts are on the process, what they loved, and if there's anything that they would have changed about their wedding day.
Today's interviewee is Lisa, an Irish lass who married a Melbourne boy. Now living back in Ireland, Lisa shares her views on her wedding day while truly embodying the bridechilla mentality.
So Lisa, tell us a little bit about yourself and your partner.
I think you know our story but met and were married within 9 months. We had 2 witnesses at our wedding in a garden so it was small (tiny!) and intimate. We’re low key, private people so neither of us wanted any fuss. We did have a big party in Ireland afterwards. It’s a rite of passage at home…. You’d never get away without a celebration 😊
And how long have you been together?
When did you first know you were in love?
We knew quickly. I put that down to age and experience though. I’m 30 and Chris is 40 so we’ve kissed enough frogs to recognise the real deal. We moved in together after 3 months so there was no hanging around.
Who proposed to who?
No ‘proposal’. Chris just said, ‘we’re going to marry’ and I said ‘I know’ and that was it. Might sound like a bit of a non-event for some couples but that’s us... We just knew and didn’t feel the need to announce it or have an ‘engagement’. Different strokes.. different folks.
And when did you get married?
Jesus.. you’re testing me now. It was in May 2 years ago. You can do the maths haha!
Tell us a little bit about your wedding day…
Chris’s mum and her husband were witnesses. We wanted to get married without the traditional wedding fuss. Very low key. We picked Olynda because it was our favourite place, but we didn’t pick a precise location until the day before. I thought our Celebrant was going to have a heart attack! She was chasing us for details and couldn’t understand why we weren’t making a big fuss over it. But to us, it was about getting married and that stuff didn’t matter. She was all about the detail though.. you know.. highlighters, folders.. all that malarkey. We weren’t.
We ended up getting married in the gardens in Olynda under a pergola. A nice ceremony or whatever you call it, with Champaign after and back to our ‘tree house’ for a post wedding drinks and nibbles. Changed into casuals and off to a Black Hat restaurant for dinner. Not everyone’s cup of tea, but it was perfect for us.
How long did it take you to plan your wedding?
Lol. Not long at all.. much to the celebrant’s distress!
And what was your favourite thing about your wedding?
The laid-back atmosphere. Everything really.
What wedding traditions did you keep?
We kept the Something Old, Something new, borrowed, blue. And I wore a wedding dress.
What was your wedding style / theme?
What was your favourite part of your wedding ceremony?
Exchanging the rings. The commitment part.
Is there anything that you would have changed about the day?
I would have had my parents there. We did have a big party in Ireland afterwards but I really should have brought them over for the ceremony too.. for my Mums sake. We’ll have to renew our vows at the 10-year mark to make it up to them.
And I would have let my mother in law do my hair. She was a hairdresser in her day and would have done a better job than the local hairdresser :p
What did you spend the most money on?
The ‘honeymoon’. Australia fist then Ireland, Paris and Amsterdam..
What’s been your favourite, unexpected thing about being married?
My husband. I was in my late 30’s and he was in his late 40’s. I had a fantastic single life and wouldn’t have given it up for anyone else.. but when I met Chris, that was it. When you know, you know…
If you were to get married again, what would you spend less time, stress, and/or money on?
Nothing. We didn’t have stress first time around. No regrets.
What was the best piece of advice that you got given before your wedding?
To be honest Precious, I didn’t really look for advice apart from my mum, sister and best friend on what to wear and where to have the party in Ireland. Again, maybe it’s an age thing but we really knew what we wanted and weren’t swayed by anyone’s opinion.
What advice do you have for a couple who are about to get hitched?
Do it your way.
How did you choose what your last names would be post wedding?
Well, I’m Irish so I am quite traditional in ways… funny that.. so I took Chris’s sir name. Now, if he had a weird sirname, tradition would have been flung out the window.. but I liked Broderick so…
What are your views on marriage equality in Australia?
From what I saw in my 5 years in Oz, a lot of the older generation are quite traditional…. women in the kitchen etc... The younger generation seem to have more equal partnerships - but I can only comment on what I saw… so I’m not the best judge.
And finally, cake or cheese board?