20 Questions with... A super cool Groom
Today I'm talking with super cool Melbourne born Groom Jorel who's spilling the beans on being married to the love of his life Sophia - an equally amazing hairdresser from England. Both Jorel and Sophia now live in London together and are expecting their first baby very soon!
Hey there Jorel, thanks for joining me today! So, tell me a little bit about yourself.
I'm a tradesman originally from Australia and met Sophia, a hairdresser who was originally fro the north of England and who'd moved to London. We met at a party in London while I was travelling and instantly fell in love. We'd only spent 10 days together before I packed up my life and moved to the UK. We then spent 6 months abroad travelling and volunteering in Madagascar to get to know each other, and then I moved to London to get on with building a life together. We both thought that seeing as we didn't kill each other while traveling along together in a foreign country was a pretty good start!
And how long have you been together for now?
We have been together 6 years.
Wow! And when did you first know you were in love?
Honestly? About 3 hours after we met! Crazy, right? Sophia actually sent her dad an email the morning after we met telling him she'd fallen in love that night.
So who proposed to who then?
I proposed to Sophia at our dear friends husbands wake. We were at a farm in Wales and after the fire breathing performance we were covered into doing Tina Turners 'Simply the Best' just before his ashes were blown up over the farm in fireworks.
When did you get married?
We got married on the 6th June 2014.
And can you tell us a little bit about your wedding day?
We got married in a beautiful ruined church in Peckham (South London). It was a lovely hot summers day, almost too hot for tweed suits and tight fishtail dresses. We had much of our families come together for the first time from Australia and the north of England. We had out friend sing as Sophia entered the church and everybody sat with whomever they pleased.
After we got married we such out the back to spend 5 minutes together while everybody gathered for confetti and photos. It was surreal to look at each other and let soak in what had just happened. It was beautiful.
How long did it take to plan your wedding?
We got engaged in May 2013 and immediately started planning as both our Mums are located abroad (in the US and Australia). It wasn't planned at a fast pace but we made sure that it was always being bored on to keep everyone informed.
And what was your favourite thing about your wedding?
The getting married bit, the vows and the ceremony.
What wedding traditions did you keep?
We kept the usual type of stuff. The Father giving away the bride, exchanging wedding rings, the white dress and we also got married in a church, although it was deconsecrated.
Did you have a theme or particular style to your wedding?
We asked everyone there to contribute to the wedding and not give us any other gift. We wanted everyone to be a part of the day.
What was your favourite part of the wedding?
Getting it done, sealed and delivered with a kiss! We were also really lucky to have a brilliant Celebrant who was fun, loud and yet totally calming.
Is there anything you would have changed about the day?
No. Not a thing.
And what did you spend the most money on?
The reception venue was definitely the most expensive part of the day!
So what do you think your favourite, unexpected thing has been about being married?
When we have any disagreements the question isn't 'if' we'll get through this, rather it's how do we get through this. It's a bigger picture of long term partnership that's only released in it's entirety after being married.
If you were to get married again, what would you have done differently?
Probably be a little more prepared!!! We forgot to book our wedding license and we almost didn't get one until about a week before so it was almost a sham wedding.
Do you have any advice for people about to get married?
Only to make sure you don't get caught up in the details. You are getting married. Forget dinner place settings. Don't manage the day too much. Just be a part of it.
How did you choose what your last names would be post wedding?
We both kept our last names. Not for any other reason than Sophia had built an industry reputation over a long period of time (Sophia is the kick arse Boss Lady at Not Another Salon - one of my favourite places in London and the ONLY place I'll get my hair cut) and to change her name it would not be a great business decision.
Marriage equality is a hot topic in Australia at the moment. What are your thoughts on it?
It's not even a question. It is a horrible government ploy to divide a population and divert attention. Get a grip Australia! It's archaic and it reduces peoples freedom of democracy by marginalising our own friends, neighbours, doctors, lawyers and nurses.
And finally, cake or cheese?
CHEESECAKE! Have the best of both worlds :)